A note to my Younger self;

College is supposed to be an exciting time filled with new experiences and opportunities, but for some students, it can also be a time of stress and anxiety. This is especially true for students like me who are called overly ideal, extra obedient, and punctual with themselves, and who may feel like they don't fit in with the more carefree and spontaneous culture of college life. As a teenage girl from a small town, the prospect of attending a lavish college in the city stood both exciting and daunting. While ofcourse there's the promise of new experiences, friends, and opportunities, but there's also the fear of feeling out of place and insecure about not fitting in with the 'cool' crowd. This is a very common experience that many small town students face when they enter a college or university . The cultural and social differences can be huge stark, and it can often be challenging to navigate the new environment without feeling like an outsider.

It's hard enough to feel like you're not fitting in, but when your peers start to make fun of you for your habits and behaviors, it can be even more difficult to feel like you belong. Taunts like "You're too uptight" or "Lighten up, it's college!" can make students feel like they're doing something wrong or missing out on an important part of the college experience. This kind of criticism can be especially hurtful for students who are already struggling with feelings of anxiety or self-doubt.

One of the most significant challenges that i personally faced was the lack of awareness about the 'cool culture' that prevails in urban colleges. This culture encompasses like everything from fashion, music, and entertainment to social interactions and relationships. It's the kind of culture that can be difficult to understand or emulate if you're not from the same background and one may feel not cool enough, or that they're not worthy of attention or respect from their peers leading to a range of negative emotions, including anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem.

We need to remember that feeling out of place is a common experience for many students, regardless of where they come from. Just because some students are more carefree and spontaneous, it doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with being ideal, obedient, or punctual. In fact, these traits can be assets in many areas of life, including academics, career, and personal relationships. It's natural to feel insecure or anxious when you're in a new environment, especially one that's vastly different from what you're used to.

The good news is that there are ways to cope with these feelings and navigate the challenges of attending a new college or university. One of the best things that i did and you can do is to take steps to build your confidence and self-esteem . This might involve taking up a new hobby, joining a club or organization, or participating in activities that interest you. I personally joined several offline course based Internships to build my overall personality ,this helps me add worthy experices on my Resume.

Another important strategy is to seek out support from others. This might involve connecting with lookalike people around you who are going through similar experiences, or seeking out guidance and advice . Sometimes just having someone to talk to and share your experiences with can make all the difference.

Additionally, it's important to remember that it's okay to be different. Embracing your own unique identity and interests is what makes you special and sets you apart from the crowd. You don't have to conform to the 'cool culture' or try to fit in with the popular crowd to be accepted or successful.Remember, you are worthy of respect and attention, and you have the power to create your own path and build a fulfilling life for yourself. Try to shift your perspective and focus on the positive aspects of your habits and behaviors. Instead of feeling like you're missing out on the "cool" aspects of college life, try to remember the benefits of being ideal, obedient, and punctual. These traits can help you succeed in your academics, career, and personal relationships, and can set you up for a fulfilling and meaningful life.

Remember, everyone has their own unique path in life, and what works for one person may not work for another. By staying true to yourself and your values, you can find success and happiness in your own way.

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